How to find mom friends and keep them

Play groups can be life-saving. For a mom at home with two snot-nosed kids and little adult interaction, a few hours swapping war stories with others can be cathartic. But how do you find a mom group?

The girl and a friend.

The girl and a friend.

The breastfeeding and natural parenting support group at Central Street Farmhouse was my saving grace during my daughter’s first year. I cried tears of laughter and pain on those red couches and relished in my role as a mom of an older baby once she got older. But now, we’ve outgrown group. Instead of playing quietly in front of me while I decompress, the girl “shops” pulling all sorts of things from shelves and destroying the store.

Yet, I’m terrified of leaving. Those ladies are the only friends I have. Well, OK, not the only ones, but they’re some of the best. So, I’m starting my own group and I plan on chronicling our adventures here so you can start one to. Because what’s better than a support group of like-minded ladies? A support group you’re the leader of.

Step one: Find a location — fortunately my husband has a multi-room studio and gallery in downtown Bangor. However, I fully intend to move our group outdoors as soon as the sun returns to Maine.

Step two: Recruit. So far I have 14 people daring enough to join me. We’ll see how numbers change in the coming months. I only invited mothers with babies I know are within a certain age range (6 months – 2 years). While we all could gain valuable knowledge from each other as parents, if we expect our kids to grow close too, they’ll need some developmental similarities.

Step three: Figure out a name. For now we are MOAB. Moms. Of. Awesome. Babies. But since we’re not in Utah, it doesn’t really seems to fit. We’ll see.

Step four: Hope and pray that one, all the kids get along and two, the moms get along even better.

Natalie Feulner

About Natalie Feulner

Natalie Feulner is a journalist and “semi-crunchy” cloth diapering momma to a rambunctious toddler named after a county in California. She drinks too much tea and loves to climb rocks but not at the same time.